Male Sexuality: Erotic Education for Men
Here's a library of expert sexual information for the curious man: "owner's manuals" for the male body. Is the penis perhaps the most misunderstood part of human anatomy??
These books get right to the heart of the matter, reassuring men that sexual dysfunctions are common and can be addressed with effective information and guidance; and urging men to move beyond a performance paradigm for their sexuality, learning to open themselves to waves of pleasure without having to work and strain to reach an orgasm.
Several books open the door to advanced Eastern teachings on ecstatic sexuality, showing men how to circulate their erotic energies throughout their body. And age is not to be feared; as Dr. David Schnarch suggests, the older we become the better lovers we can be.
Recommended Books on Male Sexuality
"The Book of the Penis should be required reading for anyone who has a penis, wants a penis, or loves someone who has or wants a penis. This is the best kind of writing about sex: titillating and informative." -- Dan Savage, author of Savage Love 2000, Grove Press
With a therapeuticaly integrated technique and a unique couple centered approach, two of America's most prominent sex therapists offer men and their partners the most effective solutions available to overcome erectile dysfunction. According to the National Institutes of Health, between 15 and 30 million men experience chronic erectile dysfunction. 2004, New Harbinger
Metz and McCarthy are leading experts in premature ejaculation. This book explores a multi-dimensional, bio-psychological approach to dealing with this problem and strengthening your sexual relationship. Many myths of male sexual performance and male sexual desire are explained. The authors teach about the different types of premature ejaculation and provide assessment exercises for the reader to determine which type of PE he suffers with. The authors suggest structured symptom-specific treatment strategies based on psychological, relational, and physiological techniques. Designed as a resource for couples, this book is a powerful tool for creating support and positive change in your relationship. 2004, New Harbinger
In this instructional DVD, Joseph Kramer Ph.D. teaches the joys of giving and receiving a Taoist Erotic Massage, a form of erotic touch that often leads to a spiritual and transformative full-bodied orgasm. Good Vibrations says: "Treat your favorite penis to the ultimate hand-job, courtesy of the detailed live action instructions. Two male lovers demonstrate 25 different strokes on each other. Male and female viewers alike will be inspired to try them all." 2007, Joseph Kramer Productions
Castleman’s message to men is surprisingly simple: stop imitating the rushed, all- genital sex seen in pornography. Instead, he suggests, cultivate the opposite: leisurely, playful, total body, massage-based love-making that includes the genitals but is not focused on them. This is a well-written book filled with wit and wisdom and state of the art information. It’s the “sex manual” you wish your dad had handed you. 2004, Rodale Press
This comprehensive "how to" book on sex is entertaining, honest and enlightening. It is written in a casual style and filled with enjoyable quotes from real couples and sex therapists. Beautiful line drawings illustrate the chapters which also include a great deal of information on sexuality as a cultural phenomenon. Particularly useful for heterosexual couples. 2012, Goofy Foot Press, 7th edition
The McCarthys emphasize pleasure rather than performance and orgasm, and both single and married men are addressed. The book guides both men and women toward emotional cooperation and away from misunderstanding and conflicts that arise in sexual relationships. 1998, Carroll and Graf
Drs. McCarthy and Metz view male sexuality as going beyond the common emphasis on mere performance and pass-fail sex. Men's Sexual Health tells men the truth about what it takes to enjoy healthy, pleasurable and satisfying sex. The essential ingredients of long-term sexual satisfaction include intimacy, pleasuring, and eroticism. The authors remind us that not every sexual encounter need be perfect. 2007, Routledge
Offering men clear and practical guidelines for reaching their real but seldom-realized sexual potential, The Multi-Orgasmic Man vividly explores these extraordinary facts: by learning to separate orgasm and ejaculation (two distinct physical processes) men can transform the momentary release of ejaculation into countless peaks of whole-body orgasms. Men who experience multiple orgasms report increased vitality and longevity, by avoiding the fatigue and depletion that follow ejaculation. This book shows you how! 1997, HarperOne
This book is packed with solid information and sensible advice and serves as a helpful antidote to boring, unfulfilling or dysfunctional sex. He critiques our culture’s “fantasy model of sex” which dictates that men perform sexually without considering their actual needs for relating and sharing. 1999, Bantam
Ever since God got angry with David and took away his potency, male sexual function has been more clouded in mystery and myth than in science. Sexual Health clearly describes what science now knows: about 30 million American men suffer erectile dysfunction; about 40,000 men a year die of prostate cancer; and that men have three kinds of erections (sexual, frictional, and nocturnal). The reader learns about the effects of drugs and alcohol on sexual function, the role of hormones in male sexual health; and is reassured by Dr. Spark that size does not matter in sexual functioning. 2000, Da Capo Press
"When it comes to pleasuring women and conversing in the language of love, cunnilingus should be every man's native tongue," writes clinical sexologist Ian Kerner, Ph.D. He first explored "the oral caress" as a way of compensating for his premature ejaculation difficulties and quickly learned that women not only welcomed but often preferred "the way of the tongue," reaching orgasm more consistently than through intercourse. Dr. Kerner educates readers about the clitoris, "the powerhouse of pleasure," with 18 parts and 8,000 nerve endings (twice as many as the penis) and clearly describes the complexities of female sexual response. 2004, Collins Living
Tantric Secrets for Men offers everything a man needs to know in order to satisfy a woman's physical, emotional, and spiritual yearnings. Employing the ancient secrets of physical ecstasy, men learn to transform rote sex into passionate lovemaking, pleasure into ecstasy, and partnership into union. The authors draw upon time-honored tantric and Taoist practices and modern sexology that will enable couples to make love more frequently, achieve higher and prolonged states of orgasmic intensity, experience lovemaking as a sacred endeavor, and deepen loving relationships. 2002, Destiny Books
Diana and Michael Richardson show men how to move beyond their preconceptions of sex as a goal-oriented--and often unintentionally stressful--event so they can relax into sex as a meditative union of complementary energies. They explain how retaining semen allows for increased vitality and extended lovemaking sessions and show the relationship-strengthening benefits of deep, sustained penetration. They also explain how to perform soft penetration and how to avoid premature ejaculation. Tantric Sex for Men includes tried-and-true foreplay approaches, diagrams of sexual position sequences, ways to increase sexual sensitivity through awareness, and how to have ecstatic experiences through reaching a woman's body on a sexually deeper level. 2010, Destiny Books
Master Mantak Chia reveals the ancient sexual secrets of the Taoist sages, which enable men to conserve and transform sexual energy and invigorate and rejuvenate the body's vital functions. Taoist Secrets of Love teaches practices for alchemical transmutation of body, mind and spirit; the secret of achieving and maintaining full sexual potency; the Pathway to higher bliss; and how to exchange and balance male and female energies. 1984, Aurora Press
In The Way of the Superior Man, David Deida explores the most important issues in men's lives-from career and family to women and intimacy to love and spirituality-to offer a practical guidebook for living a masculine life of integrity, authenticity, and freedom. Join this bestselling author and internationally renowned expert on sexual spirituality for straightforward advice, empowering skills, body practices, and more to help you realize a life of fulfillment, immediately and without compromise. "It is time to evolve beyond the macho jerk ideal, all spine and no heart," writes David Deida. "It is also time to evolve beyond the sensitive and caring wimp ideal, all heart and no spine." The Way of the Superior Man presents the ultimate challenge-and reward-for today's man: to discover the "unity of heart and spine" through the full expression of consciousness and love in the infinite openness of the present moment. 2006, Sounds True, Incorporated